How many times have you made that weight loss resolution on January 1st and by January 15th you have given up and you are eating anything and everything you want while you are beating yourself up inside because you failed miserably again?
I recently read an article that talks about a study done on New Year’s resolutions. This study showed that January 12th is the “fateful day of New Year’s resolutions.” In other words, most people fall off the “resolution wagon” that was set less than 2 weeks prior. I know I have been guilty of that in the past.
How many times have you jumped off the resolution wagon even though you have made progress? It happens over and over again throughout our life. Especially for us women that continue to resolve to lose those unwanted pounds. The truth is that we jump onto the self-sabotage wagon instead. Why do we continue that self-sabotage behavior?
That is something to think about. We do really well and we are so motivated the first and maybe the second week of the year, lose a few pounds, feel really good and THEN we find excuses to not exercise, we begin to snack more than we should, the alcoholic beverages start sneaking back into our life and before you know it, those few pounds are back on and we are overwhelmed with guilt, feeling like a failure, shamed and probably a few more emotions that make us feel worse about ourselves.
So why do we do this year after year? If we are feeling good and we dropped a few pounds, why don’t we continue doing what was working?
Well, there is always a reason we sabotage ourselves when things start going well. We do it with jobs, relationships, our health, our dreams and our goals. But why would we do that? If something good is on it’s way, why don’t we continue on that path?
Many times it’s a fear that has us jump on the self-sabotage wagon…….
– Fear of failure
– Fear of success
– Fear of unwanted attention
– Fear of reaching our goal weight and then putting it back on
– Fear of just about anything
It sounds crazy, right? Yes, fear can be the culprit of preventing us from living our dreams.
From personal experience and from extensive training in EFT (tapping) for weight loss, one of the most detrimental things we can do is beat ourselves up and allow the feeling of failure, shame, blame to consume our thoughts and body. Have you ever played the shame and blame game?
This is when tapping can help. We can use this powerful self-help tool of Emotional Freedom Techniques (tapping) to discover what is holding us back, why we sabotage ourselves and our dreams. We can discover the fears and clear them so that we can move forward and reach those goals.
For those of you that are familiar with tapping, here are a couple examples of an acceptance phrase you can say while tapping the side of your hand……
“Even though I feel like a failure again on my weight loss resolution, I am open to forgiving myself and choose to get back on track with my resolution.”
“Even though I am embarrassed because I gave up on my weight loss resolution again, I will show myself compassion and will start again tomorrow.”
If these phrases do not resonate with you, put in whatever words or emotions you may be feeling at the moment. Repeat the acceptance phrase 3 times and continue tapping through the points stating the emotion you are feeling. Take notes as to how your feelings about yourself and your weight loss goals begin to shift.
Trust me……EFT works, if you do it.