I recently tapped with a woman that was getting ready to leave that day for a weekend retreat of sorts with a large group of women. For this story, I will call her Susan. Susan knew most of the women that were attending the event, but had not seen them for a long time. She admits she had put on a little weight since the last time she had seen many of these women and did not feel very good about it.
During our conversation at the beginning of our session, Susan expressed how fearful she was of seeing these women again. Her fear revolved around these women judging her for gaining weight. Susan had herself convinced that many of these women would be having conversations in their heads about how she had gained weight. SHE JUST KNEW IT! Her shame over gaining weight was taking over what should have been an exciting and fun event for her.
There was no doubt that this is where our tapping had to start for the session.
I had Susan name one woman that was attending that she knew for sure would be judging her. We started the EFT process saying “Even though I have this fear of being judged by (name of woman) because I’ve gained weight, I accept myself and the fears I have at this moment.”
We didn’t even get to the 3rd round of accepting how she feels when Susan burst out with…”NO, she’s not going to be thinking those thoughts about me. I think those thoughts about other women. Nobody is going to be judging me. I’ve known these women for many years and we know so much about each other and what we struggle with. I now realize that I think those thoughts of other women so I’m convinced they think those things about me.”
We continued to tap on Susan’s guilt of judging other’s, shame of gaining weight and several layers of not so healthy emotions were processed and released. Our session ended with Susan excited to leave that afternoon for her retreat with those women that she enjoys being around. She was attending the weekend event without judging herself and other’s. This EFT session created self awareness of her own judgements and we tapped through enough emotions for her to realize where her judging behavior had been learned. There is more work to do on this in the future, but Susan was now excited to head out to the retreat.
Within one hour, Susan felt some emotional freedom from being judged and judging other’s.
- Do you feel like you are judged?
- Do you judge other people about their appearance, their choices in life, their habits?
- Would you like to release that behavior and thought pattern?